I'm just back from a close friend's place. He's married and has a beautiful wife (he holds his head high and walks only for this one reason). We spent some time together. As usual we discussed office, life in general and came back after some snacks and power LASSIs (you cant escape lassi from a punjabi household, can you?).
There are few things that kept tickling in my mind which is why i sat down to note everything down. My friend, who's also a colleague of mine, utters his better half's name 5-10 times daily. Not that i hate it, but i was wondering what makes him do so. He'll start his day in office, exchange couple of mails with her in the mean time with her (both of them are working in different offices), shall call her up to check if she had lunch, scold her for skipping it; call her again during tea (a quick cho-chi-cho there), call her again in the evening to check if she's back home. Dont go my the numbers, i was not wrong...in the meantime, he'll ensure he utters something which makes it all the more interesting to note that she is his world. 'Am sure BHABI also reciprocates in the same way. (What? you've not seen the other side of marraige!!) I dont need to, 'cause the glitters in their eyes bears testimony to their happy marriage (touchwood!!). However, my point is something else!! Well!! not that i'm playing nepotism out here being baised to my friend...but i observed some positive things from their marraige and you know what!! i always have this habit of copying best practices shamelessly (i work with GE and its an ol' tagline :-)) from my surroundings.
I have seen couple of marraiges (wont say much, because i also fall under the bracket of 'getting married soon', too many would take me further down), people who are otherwise in relationships, i was in one too !! There's something contrastingly different between the above mentioned and my friend's marraige. Alright!! lets name them, repeating 'my friend' gives a feeling of favouritism. They are (Mr King & Mrs King, wow!! Sing is king, mind you!!) I saw people who have been married for couple of years old, they are good in their own ways...but somewhere they are lost within the challenges in life. The holy words (ILU) sounds GREEK to them now, when they have actually spent lacs in their marriage. If someone tries it by mistake, the other would question you for not having said that for ages!! why?? Relationships were never closer anyways...I saw friends, i saw myself...but i did not find that certain energy and commitment..it was never there.
Now, what is it? It is this 'never ending' effort that Mr King makes, which is exceptional. He does it because he also gets it from the other end (BHABI). Boys!! Couple of take-aways here. HE speaks and expresses himself time and again...let's do this, use THEY from now on...a success happens because of their team work, so 'they' would be more apt. Sometimes, you make efforts in life, and it goes unnoticed, but THEY would do things which would only bolster their commitment. I could see Mr King being dumb at times, but again he makes effort and in a very innocent way and very true to him. I mean we are what we are but again, the effort is what makes a difference among us. They also have problems in their world but they are still young. They also have commitments apart from the two-some, but they are going hand in hand. They also want to start a family but they are also living the awesome-twosome life for now!! They too earn decently, but understand the meaning of extravagance. They go to Kulu-Manali, Goa but have not forgotten Bhatinda or Gurdaspur either. They want their kids to grow up as 'Global kids' but also want to show the doors of the Guruduara. I heard most of 'husband-wife' rituals from Mr King . They remain on fast for each other for their long life and well being (and yes!! i dont see them cheating on the fasting aspect).
How the hell did they reach here? Ain't they just an year and half old? We know marriage is only an institution, we grow and learn as we live by, isn't it!! Going back to the basics, we learn things faster only when we practice good things faster, is n't it?? If i ask Mr.King how did you get here, how could you do this? I suppose this is your only marraige??..blah..blah!! and he would be lying if he says he knew it all. It is a culmination of efforts that both of them brought in together; which led to a day when they understand each other so well. Having said that, they have not stopped here, they are on the run!! to please each other, make each other happy!!
For they know that its going to be a lifetime journey!! and they are building a strong foundation, laying bricks everyday (efforts) and one day for sure...Mr.and Mrs King, with their greys hairs, will look into each other and say- "This has been an incredible journey with you". And i bet my money on this, Mr King would go all out, bend his knees, will ask her all over again and say that- "I would love to be in this journey over and over again, would you like to be part of it".
This is conjugal bliss, my friends!!
There are few things that kept tickling in my mind which is why i sat down to note everything down. My friend, who's also a colleague of mine, utters his better half's name 5-10 times daily. Not that i hate it, but i was wondering what makes him do so. He'll start his day in office, exchange couple of mails with her in the mean time with her (both of them are working in different offices), shall call her up to check if she had lunch, scold her for skipping it; call her again during tea (a quick cho-chi-cho there), call her again in the evening to check if she's back home. Dont go my the numbers, i was not wrong...in the meantime, he'll ensure he utters something which makes it all the more interesting to note that she is his world. 'Am sure BHABI also reciprocates in the same way. (What? you've not seen the other side of marraige!!) I dont need to, 'cause the glitters in their eyes bears testimony to their happy marriage (touchwood!!). However, my point is something else!! Well!! not that i'm playing nepotism out here being baised to my friend...but i observed some positive things from their marraige and you know what!! i always have this habit of copying best practices shamelessly (i work with GE and its an ol' tagline :-)) from my surroundings.
I have seen couple of marraiges (wont say much, because i also fall under the bracket of 'getting married soon', too many would take me further down), people who are otherwise in relationships, i was in one too !! There's something contrastingly different between the above mentioned and my friend's marraige. Alright!! lets name them, repeating 'my friend' gives a feeling of favouritism. They are (Mr King & Mrs King, wow!! Sing is king, mind you!!) I saw people who have been married for couple of years old, they are good in their own ways...but somewhere they are lost within the challenges in life. The holy words (ILU) sounds GREEK to them now, when they have actually spent lacs in their marriage. If someone tries it by mistake, the other would question you for not having said that for ages!! why?? Relationships were never closer anyways...I saw friends, i saw myself...but i did not find that certain energy and commitment..it was never there.
Now, what is it? It is this 'never ending' effort that Mr King makes, which is exceptional. He does it because he also gets it from the other end (BHABI). Boys!! Couple of take-aways here. HE speaks and expresses himself time and again...let's do this, use THEY from now on...a success happens because of their team work, so 'they' would be more apt. Sometimes, you make efforts in life, and it goes unnoticed, but THEY would do things which would only bolster their commitment. I could see Mr King being dumb at times, but again he makes effort and in a very innocent way and very true to him. I mean we are what we are but again, the effort is what makes a difference among us. They also have problems in their world but they are still young. They also have commitments apart from the two-some, but they are going hand in hand. They also want to start a family but they are also living the awesome-twosome life for now!! They too earn decently, but understand the meaning of extravagance. They go to Kulu-Manali, Goa but have not forgotten Bhatinda or Gurdaspur either. They want their kids to grow up as 'Global kids' but also want to show the doors of the Guruduara. I heard most of 'husband-wife' rituals from Mr King . They remain on fast for each other for their long life and well being (and yes!! i dont see them cheating on the fasting aspect).
How the hell did they reach here? Ain't they just an year and half old? We know marriage is only an institution, we grow and learn as we live by, isn't it!! Going back to the basics, we learn things faster only when we practice good things faster, is n't it?? If i ask Mr.King how did you get here, how could you do this? I suppose this is your only marraige??..blah..blah!! and he would be lying if he says he knew it all. It is a culmination of efforts that both of them brought in together; which led to a day when they understand each other so well. Having said that, they have not stopped here, they are on the run!! to please each other, make each other happy!!
For they know that its going to be a lifetime journey!! and they are building a strong foundation, laying bricks everyday (efforts) and one day for sure...Mr.and Mrs King, with their greys hairs, will look into each other and say- "This has been an incredible journey with you". And i bet my money on this, Mr King would go all out, bend his knees, will ask her all over again and say that- "I would love to be in this journey over and over again, would you like to be part of it".
This is conjugal bliss, my friends!!
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